‘So A lot’ Good Got here From Clayton Break up

Discovering the silver lining. Susie Evans mirrored on her cut up from Clayton Echard in a prolonged weblog submit — and mentioned that she’s truly grateful for all the things the breakup has taught her.

“All of my relationships have left me higher than they discovered me,” the Bachelor season 26 winner, 29, started in an essay shared through her web site on Monday, November 21. “Even the most important coronary heart breaks and lapses in loyalty from earlier companions have taught me classes on self price.”

After explaining what she’d realized in her earlier relationships, the Virginia native revealed that the “greatest classes” she realized after her cut up from Echard, additionally 29, “may very well have been about understanding myself higher and studying how one can talk my expectations.”

The marriage videographer and the previous NFL participant referred to as it quits in September after assembly throughout Echard’s season of The Bachelor, which aired earlier this 12 months. “With extremely heavy hearts, we wished to share that now we have determined to go our separate methods,” they mentioned in a joint assertion on the time. “For anybody who has ever liked, is aware of this was a painful choice to make and never one taken evenly.”

One month earlier than saying their cut up, the duo revealed that they have been shifting to completely different states after dwelling collectively in Evans’ hometown of Virginia Seaside. The Bachelorette season 18 alum returned to Arizona whereas Evans moved to Los Angeles.

In her new weblog submit, Evans defined that she was “in a reasonably low place” with herself earlier than the breakup. “I imagine this was as a result of I used to be attempting to make one thing work that simply wasn’t a pure match,” she wrote. “It’s emotionally taxing and never good for the soul. To not point out, my Google search historical past was crammed with questions like, ‘Can you’re keen on somebody and never be suitable?’ 😂 I’m actually outing myself with that.”

Although issues between her and Echard didn’t work out, Evans went on to stipulate what she realized about “falling in love” from her ex. “What I discovered in my final relationship is {that a} partnership rooted in love alone doesn’t at all times have the constructing blocks to develop tall and powerful,” she defined. “So earlier than you go and fall in love with simply anyone, needless to say discovering a accomplice that aligns with you on these essential basis items will extra possible set your relationship up for long-term success.”

She concluded by reassuring readers that she and Echard are nonetheless “rooting one another on from afar” regardless of their cut up. “There may be a lot extra good that has come from this breakup, for each myself and Clayton,” she wrote. “Simply because one thing wasn’t without end, it doesn’t imply it wasn’t fantastic.”

Final month, the previous couple detailed their breakup throughout a joint interview on Kaitlyn Bristowe‘s “Off the Vine” podcast. The Missouri native revealed that the pair’s differing communication kinds led to challenges of their relationship.

“I want, I suppose, I could possibly be a greater communicator,” he defined in October. “It’s, like, powerful once we spend hours and hours and hours and, like, there’s plenty of harm in these hours. However then we get to this endpoint, like, ‘Oh, that’s what you have been attempting to say.’ And it’s identical to, ‘Dang, why couldn’t I’ve mentioned it that means in the beginning, or why couldn’t now we have understood in the beginning?’”

Evans, for her half, mentioned that she struggled as Echard tried to heal from the backlash surrounding his season of The Bachelor. “I feel plenty of it was simply self-identity and I feel that he was in search of stability,” she informed Bristowe, 37. “And there have been occasions [when] I didn’t present that as properly as a result of I simply wasn’t positive. I used to be like, , ‘I can’t wait three months.’ I can’t promise three months or no matter. And I feel that’s actually arduous in a relationship too once I’m alternatively like, ‘I want safety. … I wish to be two entire folks.’”